Our Core Values are our underlying motivations — consciously or unconsciously they drive ALL of our decisions and actions
Milton Rokeach, value’s research psychologists, says values are:
“the standards that not only guide the behaviour of the individuals who hold them, but serve as their basis for judging the behaviour of others.”
A Netflix CEO defines it more simply — “a value is WHAT we value”
Now, there are as many values elicitation exercises are there are values but…
My favourite technique is this one:
1 — Data Gathering: your life is a record of your values — consciously or unconsciously our values drive our choices
Write a list of where they’ve taken you — leave a column to the right of each for notes later
Here are some questions that might help…
- When were the best times in my life — list a few?
- When did I feel most fulfilled?
- When did I think — “I was born for this”?
- What am I most proud of?
- What can’t I live without?
- What do I always do?
- What makes my heart sing?
- Who are my role models or people I admire?
- What is my favourite quote or song lyric?
You could flip it on it’s head and ask the opposite questions eg what were the worst times of my life — but don’t get into to this for too long — I don’t want to ruin your day ;)
2 — Identify the implicit values in these answers — ask yourself
“what value is reflected in this answer?”
Write in the column to the right of your answers
Why was it so good or so bad — use 1 word value based answers
eg Fun, Support, Success, Respect, Contribution, Isolation, Injustice
You’ll notice the same values repeating — You should end up with a list of 7–10
3 — Now pick your top 4 most important — if you could only have 4 which would they be
Tip: Look back at your life and objectively see what you have lived
eg adventure may be in your top 10 but were you ever content without it for a while?
4 — Translate your values into guiding principles: Write down
- what does this value mean to me?
- what do I do as a result of this value?
- Continuous journey of expansion and progress
- I do work that increases my knowledge and moves myself and others forward positively
- I keep learning & strive to get better and better
- I explore new places and new activities
Knowing your Core Values makes choices efficient and certain — no more “suck it see”
You may not succeed at every venture but you will enjoy the trying and be “in your flow”
So, make the smart choice — use your Core Values to steer your course
…and if you need any help, just give me a call
Wishing you Well & Happy
Crisis Counsellor, Hypnotherapist and EFT practitioner
07946 526 838
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