Our caveman brains are hard wired to notice what hurts us more than what feels good.
So depending on which study you use, it takes between 5–12 positive experiences to undo the impact of a negative experience.
This colours our underlying expectations, beliefs, action strategies, and mood in an increasingly negative direction.
Therefore given the amount of negative news and experiences we are currently exposed to it’s not surprising if we’re feeling a little blue.
So…How do we switch from negative to positive?
1 — Recognise that most of our experiences are either neutral or positive. …
Our Core Values are our underlying motivations — consciously or unconsciously they drive ALL of our decisions and actions
“the standards that not only guide the behaviour of the individuals who hold them, but serve as their basis for judging the behaviour of others.”
Now, there are as many values elicitation exercises are there are values but…
My favourite technique is this one:
Write a list of where they’ve taken you — leave a column to the right of each for notes later
Here are some questions that might help…
Up to 95% of our decisions and actions are completed on autopilot
The remaining 5% require conscious choices and self-discipline
During Lockdown we are making many more conscious choices about what to do with our time and effort
We have a limited daily budget of self-control, which may already be used up managing our emotions in times of greater stress
So we have the unhappy combo of needing more self-discipline than usual, whilst having less to spare
To boost MOTIVATION we need to
Reconnect with our REASONS for doing something
Get a blank sheet and write out your answers —…